I choose happy, how could I choose otherwise?
Yes I see the world through rose-colored glasses, I prefer it that way.
I stand shielded from the terrorists, politicians and other idiots that the media uses to pee on my parade.
I have some of the best rain gear and shelter in my northern fortress.
Life is good, the view is incredible, there is no traffic, no bosses no assignments and no need to earn a living.
Win or lose I am happy watching my favorite sports team.
Let’s pause for a glass of wine on Old Mission and then grab pizza and a beer at Shorts on the way home.
Like a ghoul its days like this that make my lips hurt. Love that mutilated lips pizza.
I feel blessed but I recognize the feeling as happy and positive, not as joy.
Joy pops by at the most unexpected times and wraps me in her embrace, those are visits I cherish.
I really expect that the better I become at living in the moment, the eternal present, the more this love affair with joy will rule my days.
Joy doesn’t just make you happy, it swaddles you in protective custody and takes happy to a whole new level.
How can I embrace joy when the world suffers in so many cruel ways?
It’s easy, I don’t live there, my world is the red pines, a calm lake and the last fall flower smiling at me.
The release of dopamine floods the reward circuits of the brain, novel situations feed it.
When the happy fire is fed to overflowing joy makes its appearance.
It floods your body from the mind to the soul.
You can choose happy but you can’t choose joy, it chooses you.
You can recreate the moment with the same people and stimulants and only find a pleasing happy glow, joy is elusive.
Be close to the present moment, soak it all in.
If joy slips in relish its embrace, explore its rough edges and smooth methods.
You can’t force joy to be present; it sneaks up on you unexpected and yet it is always invited.
Finding that something more, to take happy all the way to joy is a worthy quest, you never know what it will be, an emotion, a feeling, a taste.
Nor do you know if it will slide on by without blessing you with a taste.
I remember joy:
• The first bite of the last peanut butter cookie when you know it’s the last one you will see for a month.
• Hugging your girl and knowing you would move a mountain to keep her safe.
• Swaddling your newborn and hugging her for the first time.
• The first sip of an ice-cold beer when the supreme pizza walks through the door.
• Sitting on a beach and knowing that for this moment all your loved ones are safe.
• The first draw on a Cuban cigar 10 years after ending a 35 year addiction. (no that is not a memory but a future joy)
Seek that secret ingredient that keeps you in the present moment and bridges the gap between happy and joy. Slowdown that moment, embrace its many facets. When it slaps you in the face with elation, pause and soak it all in. Create a holographic detailed memory you can revisit.
There are plenty of dark paths in the world that lead to joy and then speed right past into the depths of darkness and despair. Don’t play with fire, leave the Meth, Coke and needles for those without hope.
Choose happy, enjoy the positive side of life, when joy visits embrace the unexpected pleasure.